It’s not a Me Before You Review

This is not a review for the movie “Me Before You” but watching this movie has somehow sparked a small debate on my Facebook wall. My Facebook is very private and I only befriend people whom I know and have communicated in real life. So if you and I are Facebook friends, I consider you an actual friend.

Anyway, yesterday I posted this on my wall and the comments from 2 of my Facebook friends were startling. 1 of these 2, I consider him to be rude and offensive.  I’m not ready to open this post to the public because I do not want to spark another debate so I’m just going to show the print screen of the said post.


It started with a very simple post with no intention, merely to express that I’m feeling sad about the ending of this movie. I watched the movie twice and I find this movie so interesting because it questions about choices people make in life. I’m a “shallow” person who usually watches only comedy or superhero movies because I think life can sometimes be difficult and depressing so why should I make it even more? Instead, I should laugh and enjoy the moment while I’m still living. So watching this movie is really something out of ordinary for me. When I decided to watch this movie, I was already sad and angry about a family member (story for another day), but some friends shared this movie on Facebook so I just decided to click and see what it is really about. Before I watched it fully for the first time, I was merely fast forwarding it to see if it was really going to be such a tearjerker. But no, most scenes which I clicked to, were actually light-hearted and humourous. That was why I thought that it was not going to be that bad after all, and therefore decided to watch it before I ended that shitty day.


This is the entire post from my Facebook. Without any intention, I suddenly became an insensitive person. In my first reply to “Friend #1”, I didn’t mean “don’t care about these disabled people, just indulge in the misery of others”. I meant, “there are always going to be people who feel negative about something and it’s difficult to keep up with it, so I’m not going to care about the protests and am just going to watch the movie (or any movie that I might have wanted to watch at that time).” It’s pretty much like “I don’t want to care about those fat-shamers, skinny shamers or any body-shamers, I just want to eat that chocolate ice-cream which I feel like eating right now.” It’s as simple as that!

I’m not a romantic novel reader but I have watched a few romantic Korean dramas and I think most people understand that in such kind of “romantic” storyline, it can sometimes be very unrealistic. Afterall, this is the job of an author – to write a good story and earn some money? Isn’t that what we are all doing? So, do you really expect all authors to write the same genre, the same storyline, the same happily-ever-after story with only perfectly normal and “abled” human beings? Well no, because everyone is different. Everyone accepts/likes different things so we do, read, see and share different things. This is your rights, your choice, your freedom to do anything you want. But you don’t do it on other people’s private space. I later posted this.


By the way, you might have realized that “Friend #2” commented that he himself is “a disabled ass”. 3 months ago when I last saw him, he wasn’t on a wheelchair being paralyzed. He was walking and talking. However,  from many of his posts on Facebook (not that I see his posts very often because Facebook generates stuff based on recency and more likes/comments?), it is implied that he was diagnosed or suffered from or is currently suffering mild autism, although many of his friends have actually commented otherwise to his condition. But he insists that that is/was his condition. I’m sorry, I’m not sure what verbs/tenses I should use because I don’t know this person’s condition well. So, I assume this is the reason why he said that he is “a disabled ass”. Well, I guess he just wanted to say that he is “disabled” but because I called him an “ass” in one of my replies, and therefore he became the “disabled ass”. But, whatever.

Some points I want to highlight are:

  1. It is never polite to write such things on other people’s posts. If you disagree with something and really feel there’s an urge to argue, do it nicely and privately.
  2. If you prefer to argue publicly, do use a nice tone. After all, you don’t know what the other person had gone/is going through at that moment.
  3. Alternatively, you can choose to view this person as a shallow person, and simply unfollow them. Or even better, unfriend them. It’s okay to do that. You don’t have to write horrible things on the person’s wall.

Wait, there are more important points I want to stress on.

Many years ago, I watched a movie called Fantastic Four: Rise of the Silver Surfer. This movie didn’t receive very good reviews but there were 2 scenes that I will always remember. And when bad times come, I often remind myself these 2 scenes.



Scene 1: When asked why is he destroying the earth, Silver Surfer said, “I have no choice.” Susan Storm then replied, “What do you mean you don’t have a choice? There’s always a choice.”

Scene 2: Susan Storm was dying because she wanted to save the Silver Surfer from a flying sharp object but she was instead pierced by this object. Silver Surfer revived her and said to Mr. Invisible, “Treasure each moment with her and tell her she was right. We do have a choice.”

My point here is that life doesn’t always turn out like how we want it to be. We all want a peaceful, fair and equal world. Who doesn’t? Disaster, tragedy and all sorts of bad things may fall upon you but the ending/outcome of your story depends solely on the choice you make in life. You do not have to agree with anyone. Similarly, you do not have to disagree with anyone. So, if you have the slightest intention to create awareness or to make this world a better place, start with your own actions. Convince people with your actions, not suffocate them with your unkind words.

Remember, there’s always a choice. We do have a choice. Choose to be positive and fill this world with more positive aura.


Why Bulgarian beauty products?

Recently, I started my own small business selling Bulgarian beauty products. Perhaps you might be thinking: Why Bulgarian beauty products? Are they any good?  In this blog post, I’m going to share with you the reasons I chose these products.

Reason #1 – Refan is a very popular local brand in Bulgaria.
In 2010, I had my first trip to Bulgaria when I met Mr. Hubby (then Mr. Boyfriend). Like any other female travelers, I enjoy shopping and buying local products. It’s like when going to Italy, you’d mostly want to visit a Prada shop or get a Prada yourself. Even on my first visit there, almost everywhere I went, I would see a Refan shop. It’s like you would see Body Shop, Crabtree & Evelyn or L’occitane when you hit a mall in Malaysia, or in any other mall in Asia. Refan is like that in Bulgaria. Because I kept seeing it, I asked Mr. Hubby about this brand and he told me that Refan is a very popular local brand in Bulgaria. I told him I HAD TO check it out. Before that first trip ended, I filled my luggage with Refan products (mostly soaps, hand cream and shower gel) and brought them back to Malaysia as souvenirs.

Reason #2 – My family and friends love it!
Every year when I return to Bulgaria, my family members would request me to bring these Refan products back to Malaysia in bulk. You know it’s not a joking matter when someone asks you to bring back 6 or 10 bottles of shower gel all the way back, without really caring if your luggage can fit them or not! Haha. I mean, I love these products but I’m not that kind of person who would store so many bottles of shower gel at home. There must be a reason WHY they are requesting so many, every single time I go back to Bulgaria. My friends, on the other hand, would get different products as their souvenirs. And the feedback that I receive from them is always positive.

Reason #3 – Refan products are of high quality but are affordable.
If you have used products from L’occitane, you would know that their products are of high quality, which explains the high price. On the other hand, Body Shop offers much more average-range products at relatively cheaper price. How about Refan? If you ask me, I’m going to tell you that Refan is of L’occitane’s quality and Body Shop’s price. Like seriously? YES, SERIOUSLY!

Reason #4 – I’m a Refan fan myself!
I’ve been using Refan products since 2010. I’ve used their shower gel, body lotion, hand cream (my favourite!), soap, facial scrub and peeling soap. I wouldn’t recommend this brand to others, if I hadn’t tried it myself. Mr. Hubby and I are currently using Refan’s Lavender and Ylang-Ylang Shampoo and Shower Gel. And I must tell you that it is great. After a long day at work, using this range helps me to calm my mood (and scalp and skin!) down.

Reason #5 – Refan has a big variety of products.
Refan offers a variety of products in different series/fragrances. Whether you are a “flower” or a “fruit” person, there’s something for you to choose from. It is impossible for you to like all of them, but there must be something from Refan that suits you.

Reason #6 – Refan is a reputable and globally-known European brand.
Refan started back in 1991 and nowadays has many franchises worldwide. Their products are produced under strict quality control. They have also won many awards and have been supporting many social events. You can click here to check their official site. You can also simply search for Refan using Google search and you will find a lot of information about this brand. If you are in Malaysia or Singapore, the second nearest Refan shop is in Hong Kong. Now, the nearest is Rozova Gradina, of course! 😀

Reason #7 – Refan products are natural and preservative free. Yay!
All Refan products are produced using natural plant extract and natural plant oil. Their rose-based products are all produced with natural rose water. Plus, all their products are preservative free. All their products are produced according to the European laws and regulations. You have strict regulations, you have natural stuff, what is better than that?

Reason #8 – Where else to get better rose products when Bulgaria is the largest producer of rose oil in the world?
I’m sure you have seen a lot of brands offering Bulgarian Rose products. Have you thought about it? Why Bulgarian rose? Why not just rose? In perfumery, rose oil is the most heavily used essential oil despite their high price. Where else to get better rose products if not from Bulgaria directly?

I hope my blog answers your questions/doubts. If you are still doubtful about this brand, please feel free to contact me directly. There’s no other better way for you to know the quality of this product unless you try it personally 🙂

For more information about Rozova Gradina and the products we offer, please click here. We are currently in the midst of setting up our website. Stay tuned for more updated information! 🙂

Thank you for reading my blog. ❤

Life without Mr. Hubby for 5 days

Mr. Hubby and I spend every day together. We can do the same stupidity to each other every single day but never get bored with each other. Many people have said that it’s healthy for couples to sometimes spend some time apart. But I don’t think I’ll ever want to be apart from Mr. Hubby. Today is one of the most dreaded day of my life because Mr. Hubby is travelling to Seattle for 5 days for a conference. I can’t imagine my life without him. Let’s see how I’ll survive without him by my side for the next 4 days.

Day 1 (17/02/2016)
I went directly to work after sending Mr. Hubby to the airport in the morning. Mr. Hubby told me not to go to work and just take some days off. I told him I would most probably feel much better if I have something to do. After class, I had lunch with a few of my students. They later came to my house to hang out (with each other mostly). They played poker cards for 2 hours while I was just going around my house, looking for things to do. They left at about 6pm, and I continued to do some household chores. I ate bread for dinner since I wasn’t feeling hungry. It was really quite a boring day for me because I couldn’t “torture” Mr. Hubby. I tried to annoy  a few friends by sending either long messages or weird stickers/emoji. I think they would soon start to hate me. 3 more hours before the plane lands in Seattle. I want to stay up til 2.20am but I’m not sure if I could. Well, that’s basically my very-normal-and-not-so-productive day. I’ll check in again tomorrow. 😛

Day 2 (18/02/2016)
I actually planned to sleep until 10am today since I didn’t have any classes today. Unfortunately, I woke up at 7+am because my nose was itchy (sinusitis problem). I tried to return to sleep but I just couldn’t fall asleep so I decided to just wake up and do some work at home. I washed the clothes, went through some invoices and had a short chat with Mr. Hubby before he went to sleep. Then I went for a facial session at 11am, and picked my sister from the airport at 3pm. My sister and I had lunch at the mall next to my place. The plan was for both of us to do shopping at Paradigm Mall, but we decided that we were just 2 lazy bums so we headed home to sleep. We woke up at 7pm, went for dinner at 8pm, went to collect Mr. Hubby’s book from Times Bookstore, went to clinic to get my medicine and then reached home at 10pm. Mr. Hubby woke up from his sleep and we chatted for about an hour about our activities for the day. Today was again not very productive because of lack of sleep and the attack of sinusitis. The whole day I felt that my brain was not working very well and couldn’t really concentrate. But, I guess I was not as bored as yesterday because I did “real chores” instead of just walking around my house aimlessly. Haha. Let’s see how my day will go tomorrow.

Day 3 (19/02/2016)
I again had only about 5 hours of sleep yesterday and had to wake up early for my classes today. Left work at 12pm, came home to pick my sister and we went for lunch together in Pasta Zanmai. Initially, our plan was to go directly to Mitsui Outlet Park directly after work, but I had to go to the bank and I got hungry suddenly, so I decided to just go to one of the nearest malls around my place and the only proceed to Mitsui Outlet Park. When we reach MOP, it was already almost 4.30pm and it was raining crazily. The mall was quite empty, nothing much to buy. I knew it was going to be jammed if we were to return around 7pm, so we decided to just have our dinner before heading home. Reached home at about 9.30pm, chatted with Mr. Hubby for a while and showered. Pretty lame, my day. Haha. I think I’m surviving quite well. After all, I’m basically doing nothing except hitting the malls!! Will check in again tomorrow!

Day 4 (20/02/2016)
Today, my sister and I went to One Utama for shopping. In order to avoid the crowd, we went there rather early at 11am. It wasn’t jam but the parking was already filled with cars and we had to park at Level 5. Today’s activity was only shopping. I’m personally not a fan of One Utama because the structure of the mall is rather confusing. I got lost the last time I went there. And we got almost got lost today too. Hopefully I won’t get lost in future in this mall. We went back home at about 6pm. Took a fast shower and went for a foot reflexology session together. It was my sister’s first time getting her feet massage. It was quite funny that she was feeling a bit excited and nervous at the same time. 😀

Day 5 (21/02/2016)
My sister’s flight was at 12.10pm. We went to Paradigm Mall in the morning at 10am because she wanted to get something from Innisfree, which we didn’t see it in One Utama yesterday. I dropped her at the airport at about 11.20am, went to Citta Mall to grab some bread and reached home at about 12pm. I got a text from my sister, telling me that there was no information for her flight. She went to the information counter twice to check her flight schedule, the staff wasn’t helped but simply shrugged her off by telling her that the information was correct. At last, when my sister started getting angry, this very unhelpful staff (still talking on the phone) checked her flight information and found out that actually the flight was actually re-scheduled to an earlier slot at 10.20am. Funnily, my sister didn’t receive any information via phone, text or email. They had to reschedule her to the next flight which was at 5.20pm. I went again to the airport to pick her. At 4.15pm when we were already leaving to the airport for the n-th time, we received a text saying this flight will again be delayed to 5.50pm. It was a horrible day for my sister, because I think she didn’t expect such unfortunate situation would occur to her. By the time I came home, it was about 5.15pm and I started cleaning the house, and fixing some of the cables and furniture which I have been procrastinating since don’t know when. It’s almost 10pm now and I’m waiting to go and pick up Mr. Hubby.

Verdict: How well did I survive?
I think I survived rather well because I basically did nothing much except shopping. Ironically, I do have things which I have to do but I just didn’t feel like doing them. Luckily my sister was here to accompany me, if not, I think I would have been really really bored. I think it’s good to have some “me” time once in a while but I don’t think I need 5 days worth of “me” time. I think half a day will work great for me. I personally prefer to have someone next to me so that I can annoy them with whatever stupidity I can come up with. Hahaha! 😀

Finally, a BIG THANK YOU to my sister for spending 4 days with me in KL. I had a great sister-bonding time with you.

And, another BIG THANK YOU for Mr. Hubby for buying me the Kate Spade & Michael Kors bags. ❤