Friendship

Unexpected inspiration!

I have an exciting blog post which I wanted to share today. But I know that the coming Monday is a public holiday in Malaysia and most of my friends are probably somewhere having their long weekend vacation. So, I’ll save that story for next week as a way to chase my friends’ post-vacation blues away. Hahahaha!! 😀 Happy holiday to my Malaysian friends. And happy weekend (in advanced) to the rest!! 😀 😀

To keep myself disciplined, I’m going to share about how I feel about blogging. I think this post is rather unexciting. So, it’s okay if you don’t want to continue reading. But if you do, thank you so much and I love you!! :* Alternatively, you can click on some old posts (check “archives” on the right if you’re on a computer OR all the way to the bottom if you’re using a mobile device!) If you’re interested, you can also check out Bunny & Bee for some stories I posted 2 or 3 years ago.

I love sharing my stories. I’m always glad that my stories are able to help or inspire other people in some ways. Click here to read why I started blogging, mostly to document significant things that happened to me and Mr. Hubby. Many people think I’m “public” person. In fact, I’m a very private person. From time to time, I’m actually “filtering” my friend list on Facebook because I only keep the ones whom I’m still in contact with. First of all, I don’t see the point of keeping “friends” that I don’t keep in touch with. It’s a waste of space. And it’s not like they take the initiatives to keep in touch with me in any way. Secondly, I don’t need thousands of friends on my friend list to boast my social circle. It’s totally unnecessary. I also don’t accept friend requests unless I personally know the person. I don’t subscribe to any channel to publicize my blog. I only share my blog on my Facebook. In short, I only share my blog to 600+ “chosen” friends on my Facebook.  But of course, not all of them bothered to read my blog any way.

Today, I logged in to the blog I share with Mr. Hubby. I haven’t logged in for more than a year. The blog is currently not active. Haha. Don’t ask me why. I can list you 100 reasons and you will still think that I’m giving excuses. So yeah, it is currently not active. But, I’ll try to make it active again soon. I was amazed that there were actually people (not from my friend list) who subscribed to it. I also received a few comments from strangers who told me that they came across my blog by chance and how did it help them in some ways. Few weeks before I left Malaysia to come to Bulgaria, I also received a message from a friend, asking me for advice about the marriage registration processes (with a foreigner) in Malaysia. She told me that she had read my blog about my experience. 2 days ago, another friend also mentioned that she had read about my R.O.M experience when we shared about relationship issues.

I mean, how amazing can that be? People getting inspired by my stories? This is like the “bestest” feeling (greatest satisfaction) I get from blogging. I was actually thinking nobody cares about my “nonsensical” stories. Apparently, it’s not so nonsensical after all. So, if you do have a story that you would like to share, don’t hesitate! Share it! You never know how much your personal experience can actually help or inspire others. Click here to find out how you can be a guest writer for my blog.

Let’s share our stories and be an unexpected inspiration to someone else!

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Happy Teacher’s Day!

I must be one of the luckiest people on Earth, because I have met many great teachers in my life. Besides our parents, teachers are usually the ones whom we spend quite long time with, especially during our primary and secondary school days. I had a few horrible teachers too. Luckily, they were not too many.

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*You can continue reading paragraphs in orange for stories of not-so-great teachers, but it’s not necessary. 😀

I remember when I was in Primary 1, one of the mentioned horrible teachers stuck pieces of cellophane tape in students’ mouths (almost the entire class, including me). Apparently, we were making too much noise. On one hand, I could empathize how she was feeling in a noisy classroom. On the other hand, I felt quite disgusted over her actions. I do not hate her. But I think she shouldn’t have gone this far as we were only Primary 1 kids. She did apologize in the end over her actions after several parents (including mine) went to see principal to seek for clarification. It was NOT that kind of “parents scolding and flipping tables” meeting. It was a calm and civilised discussion. I was there in the meeting since everyone “involved” had to be there. 

The second horrible teacher I had was when I was in secondary school. She was actually not so horrible (just a bit) in her personality but she had quite horrible sense of fashion, on which I will not elaborate in detail. I know that everyone is entitled to their own fashion opinions, but seriously, she had like quite unpleasant make-up and unkempt manicure. I guess that was the reason why I did badly for that subject. Haha, that was an excuse but whatever. 😛

Enough about horrible teachers and back to the original topic, I want to share about teachers and mentors who have shown me a lot of kindness and guidance during my school years. (Note: they are not in any order of priority.)

My English teacher in secondary school was the one who somehow motivated me to become an English teacher. She did not talk me to it but I had great respect for her and her teaching. On her first teaching day, I remember her giving the whole class an English test. Being in a “premier” school in Johor Bahru somehow made us (me and my fellow classmates) think that our English was generally good. But almost everyone flunked that test. Lucky for me, I got a B. But I’d never received a B in my entire school years. Initially, many students hated her for her action but I guess we did realise that she was doing this for our own good. True enough, from that day onwards, everyone started taking English seriously. I’m not saying that being well-versed in English makes someone a god, but I must say that it did help me communicate well with others and understand my subjects better during my university years.

During my university years, I also met many great lecturers, who have shown great patience and kindness to me. I majored in English Language and Communication. I like English a lot. But every time when someone heard that I majored in this subject, their first response was “English? You mean like grammar and stuff?”. Seriously, these people were so shallow. English is so much more than just “grammar and stuff”. And, communication is not just about “talking with others.” My university lecturers have taught me so much about English communication, from the perspectives of teaching, linguistics, mass communication, psychology and even photography!

Later when I started working (teaching), I continued my master degree in Linguistics. Again, when people heard about “Linguistics”, their first response was “Linguistics? You mean English and grammar?”. Seriously again, these people were so so so shallow and (erm, let me check for other synonyms of “shallow”) superficial, hollow, depthless, empty, etc. Again and again, Linguistics is not just about “English and grammar”, it’s so much more that I can’t even explain it in a single blog post like this. Anyway, I gave up on these shallow people and everytime they asked about “Linguistics”, I would reply “Well, it’s not like you will understand it anyway so I’ll not explain further.” Sound shitty? Totally NOT, especially towards these “shallow-ers”. My university lecturers continued to amaze me with the world of linguistics. I have learnt so so so much from them. Now that I am no longer going to class, I actually kind of miss those times I used to spend in classrooms, exchanging constructive ideas with my fellow classmates and lecturers.

As a teacher myself, I understood that being a teacher is not an easy task. Students sometimes do not understand our position and think that teaching is a “free-and-easy” job. I have heard people saying “Teaching is easy, everyone can teach.” I can assure you that this is NOT true. NOT everyone can teach. NOT everyone has the skills to teach. Even if they have the skills, NOT everyone has the passion to teach. I’m so lucky to have studied and worked with teachers, lecturers and mentors who are really passionate and knowledgeable in the field of teaching.

To students out there, it is important for you to show respect and gratitude to your teachers. Teachers DO NOT NEED your presents or flowers. What we want is for you to learn and understand the things we have taught you, and get good results for your subjects (although we don’t really benefit from it because your good results determine your future, not ours). Also remember, please DO NOT say to your teachers “Oh, we pay for the school fees so we are your customers. Therefore, you cannot scold us.” (This is personal experience). I believe respect is mutual. If you have fulfilled your responsibility as a student, your teacher will definitely show you the respect you deserve. So please do not expect your teacher to like you if all the things you have done are not submitting work on time, being late for class, not paying attention when your teacher is teaching and worse of all – wearing horrible clothes (that merely cover your skin/butt/boobs). Remember, respect is earned, not asked for. And, you will need to respect yourself first before expecting others to respect you.

In fact I do know some teachers who are simply teaching for the sake of money but this blog post is not dedicated to such teachers. This blog post is dedicated to teachers who have shown hard work and passion in teaching, not for the sake of “earning money”.

Dear teachers, thank you for your hard work and guidance. I appreciate all the support and love you have shown me all this while. I hope I have been a good student, too! 😛

HAPPY TEACHERS’ DAY! ❤ ❤ ❤

Love from the pink monster ❤

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A Questionable Friendship – The Finale

2 posts in 2 days’ time. I have never been so diligent, I must say.

Humans show preferences. And, this is based on an individual’s perspective. Is such perspective right or wrong? It’s neither right nor wrong. It’s a personal preference. It’s as simple as why a person chooses something over another.

Let me give you an example / a scenario:

You go to a shop to buy a dress with your friend. You see a pink dress and you like it. Why? Perhaps you like pink. Perhaps the dress is pleasant looking for you. Perhaps the dress matches the theme of the event you are attending. This is your perspective.

Your friend who goes to the shop with you, thinks that pink dress is hideous. Why? Perhaps your friend dislikes pink in general. Perhaps your friend just thinks that the dress is unpleasant looking for your friend. Perhaps pink doesn’t match your friend’s style. This is your friend’s perspective.

So, is your decision to like the pink dress wrong? No. Is your friend’s decision to dislike the pink dress wrong? No. Why? Because everyone views things differently. Everyone has different thought/opinions/viewpoints over the same thing.

Do you and your friend need to agree on the same thing? No. Do you need your friend’s permission to get that pink dress? No. Does your friend need to comply to your preference? No. Why? It’s an individual’s preference. No one has to agreed to anything.

Your friend expresses ultimate disgust with the pink dress. So you ask your friend, “Will you still go to the event with me even if I wear this pink dress there?”. Your friend replies, “Of course I will. I am going with you because you are my friend, not because of the dress.” Perhaps at that point of time, your friend doesn’t want to disappoint you.

On the day of the event, your friend doesn’t turn up. You get a bit disappointed. Why? Because your friend promised to come.

Are you in the wrong to express your disappointment? No. Why? Because in your perspective, your friend has promised something and you look forward to this promise.

Is your friend in the wrong not to turn up in the event? No. Why? Because in your friend’s perspective, your friend has done their job not to disappoint you when you bought that hideous pink dress and your friend feels not obliged to fulfill what has been merely mentioned.

I do not expect everyone to agree with me when I shared my previous post. That was why I mentioned, if you are a “judgmental, sensitive, easily-offended, narrow-minded person”, do not proceed reading. But I welcome and accept open comments, whether you agree or disagree with me. I will neither agree or disagree to your comments because it is an individual’s preference/perspectives.

I have never said I am saint without making any mistakes in life. That would be a lie. Everyone at some point of time would have made one or two or a few or many mistakes. I do made mistakes. I accept it, learn from it, and make improvements in life in order not to repeat the same mistake. That is my perspective. Other people made mistakes, and some mistakes affected my life. Do I have to accept what they have done? No. Why? Because this is my perspective. But they have repented and they think they should be forgiven. Are they right? Yes. Because that is their perspective. Must I accept it? No. Because this is my perspective. Is anyone at fault? No. Why? Because, everyone sees things differently.

As expected, unpleasant things always spread fast. It took someone 2 months to reply my message but it took less than 24 hours for this same person to reply to my unpleasant post about him on my blog. First of all, I really want to thank “a blogger, who shares info about life/turning over new leaf/$$/humanitarian topics and knows ur husband name, it was attention to me just fyi for reading, which didn’t know who was mr.TP.” for sharing this blog post to Mr. TP.

I have no intention to offend anyone. I am merely seeking an answer to a question which has been bugging me for some time. I am not asking for people to agree with my opinion. I am merely expressing something which I have previously experienced. In my perspective, this experience is a shit. For some others, it’s not a big deal. For many few others, it’s a stupid, ridiculous, irrelevant things even to be mentioned. Is anyone wrong? No. Everyone is right in their perspective.

I am not exactly a patient and good-tempered person. In fact, I get agitated quite easily. Those who are around me should know this fact better. As I mentioned earlier, humans always show preference on one over another. I am one of these humans. That explains why I bought the pink dress from that shop over any other dresses from other shops. However, I must say that I am a fair person and always stay neutral in opinions. Staying neutral for me means “being able to see things from different people’s perspective and giving the best feedback possible but that doesn’t mean I agree with these different perspectives”. Everyone close to me should know this better. And if you don’t, it’s because you aren’t.

More examples:

Example 1:
Once, a friend called me and complained about her boyfriend being inconsiderate. To be more specific, this boyfriend was very calculative with his money and was complaining that my friend was spending money unnecessarily. My friend of course justified to me that she didn’t spend unnecessarily by telling me what exactly she bought. My friend got annoyed and wanted to break up with him. I have never seen this boyfriend before. I didn’t know him. I didn’t have him on Facebook. I didn’t even know how he looked like. And yet, this is how I answered my friend.

“From your perspective, I can understand why you were annoyed. Because if I were you, I would probably going to feel the same thing too. However, you must think from his perspective. He perhaps doesn’t have much experience with dating and perhaps he didn’t mean it this way. And, it’s a good thing that he didn’t want to spend the money which he is now getting from his parents. That shows that he is a responsible man. He wants to spend with his own earned money. Please do not make hasty decision and think over what I said.”

Example 2:

This example happened just a few days ago. And, it’s a family affair. Several days ago, my mum, my sister, my husband and myself went to nearby supermarket to buy some groceries needed by my mum-in-law. Summer in Bulgaria can be quite hot with glaring sun and people here are used to walking to their destinations. This supermarket from home is about 10-15 minutes walking distance depending how fast a person walks. My family members will never walk to even the nearest supermarket to buy something. So when they have to walk here, it’s a big problem for them. My mum and my sis bought many snacks and many packs of juices, 3 packs to be specific. On the other hand, my husband had to buy 2 whole roasted chicken for my mum-in-law. Every plastic bags here costs 20 cents (which is about RM0.44) and it’s only available when requested. Of course my mum and sis didn’t know this and the cashier only gave 2 medium sized plastic bags to fill a whole lot of groceries. When my husband saw this, he obviously wasn’t happy. Why? Because he had to carry them home. It was okay if he could walk fast, but knowing the speed that my mum and my sis walk, I think it was quite devastating for him. Of course, everyone was panting and sweating when they reached home. Though my husband did not say anything but I knew he was unhappy about it. I don’t want to “praise” him but everyone who knows him knows that my husband is someone who is very patient and doesn’t show bad temper easily. So, what did I tell my husband?

“Bee, I know you are unhappy about the big portion of groceries you had to carry home in such small plastic bags, especially you have to walk in such slow pace with us. I can understand your frustration. But you have to know one thing, we came here with the purpose of preparing our wedding. Also, because I was working like hell before coming here, so for me the sole purpose is to get a good rest before the wedding and before going back to Malaysia. However, for my mum and sis, they are tourists. They came here with the intention to tour around. I know it’s difficult to bring them to “tour around” because they are not fans of museums or statues or parks. The thing they care the most, to buy souvenirs back for their friends in Malaysia. I know you hate shopping. But, think it from their perspectives. Would any tourist want to stay home and do nothing, even if it’s just for a day? So, let’s bring them out tomorrow, for the whole day. Let them shop til their content and satisfy their needs of buying souvenirs. I know you won’t like this idea, but just remember this, they are tourists.”

Of course, we went for museum visiting and shopping the very next day. There are also some other problems which occur later (which I am not going to talk about it). What I want to point out here is that, I stay neutral for both sides and try my best to give the best possible opinion. But of course, I am not god. I don’t agree to whichever side and I cannot solve the problem ultimately. But I’ll try my best.

I have the urge to publish the message which Mr TP wrote in reply to my blog post. But it’s a bit lengthy and I really didn’t want to waste anyone’s time. At end of the day, everyone will still insist that they themselves are righteous, truthful and conscientious so there’s no ending to this “feud”.

Since this person thinks that I’m at fault for pinpointing at him over such trivial matter, I shall not continue to “fight” against this person, or anyone else who are involved.

As I mentioned earlier, there’s not right or wrong. It’s the matter of perspective. Nobody has to agree/disagree with anyone. It’s a personal preference.

On second thought, I am really not a saint. I am a bad, revengeful, immature, unconscientious person.  So, please entertain yourself with the conversation below 😉 It’s for a limited time only!

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A Questionable Friendship

Wow, my last post was more than a year ago. And seriously, this entry is not even what I intended to post. But this issue has been bugging my thoughts for some time. So, before I make any irrational or unnecessary decisions, I would like to seek the opinion of the public 🙂 I probably would “hide” this post some time later (whenever I’m free), not because I have something to hide. It’s because I don’t wish something hideous to even exist on my lovely blog. But let’s see, how long time will this blog post remain.

I must remind that this blog post may not consist of the most beautiful words ever, so if you are a judgmental, sensitive, easily-offended, narrow-minded person, I advise you not to read further.

To proceed with this story, I may need to go back to the “once upon a time” tale, so please bear with me 🙂

Recently, I have been busy with many things – wedding preparations, work, marriage-related documents verification etc. For those who have been following my Facebook news feed, I am sure I don’t have to go further. As busy as I am, sometimes I couldn’t help it but still being bothered with some shits which are lingering around me. As usual, people would just say “Oh, don’t be bothered about it”, “Oh, don’t waste your time on this.” or “Oh, don’t think about it.”. The truth is, “Of course I will think about it when shit happens to me. Come on, I am not a saint. You really expect me to like forget everything after people shit on me? Really? Would you do that?”.

Okay, back to my story.

I have started inviting friends to my wedding back in January 2013. It’s not because I am “kiasu” (scare to lose) or “kiasi” (scare to die). This invitation is what I called “the first round invitation” because ONLY my very very very very very close friends were notified. I hope that by letting my best friends know my wedding date, they could have make proper arrangements so that all my best friends can attend my wedding in July. This story is not about my wedding, it’s not about the wedding invitation, it’s about a person whom I have invited, both regrettably and regretfully.

So, on January 16, 2013 at 5.09pm, I wrote/PM-ed to this person (let’s call him Mr. TP since he is “this person”) on Facebook. And, Mr. TP never replied to my message. In fact, I was quite pissed off because he was the only person who did not respond to my message. WHY? First of all, Facebook stated that he has “seen” the message. Secondly, even if he is an extremely busy person, I don’t think replying something like “Sure, I’ll think about it” will take him more than 10 seconds. So, being busy is not a good excuse for this.

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On February 18, 2013, I posted on my Facebook questioning about friendship (refer above). Why did I do so? It’s because I found out that many of my “friends” have added a particular person (let’s call this particular person Ms. H, yes, it’s a “she” and why is it “H”? I’ll leave that to your imagination 😉 ) Okay, why am I angry? This Ms. H is an all-time biggest shit. She is the most fake person or fakest (if there’s such a word) on earth, and would do resort to any tricks just for her advantage. So, who is this Ms H? Let me summarise all the “good deeds” she has done.

  1. She loves acting innocent.
  2. If both you and your boyfriend happen to be her friends, she would make sure she would get you “couple souvenirs” each time she goes somewhere so her presence will haunt you everywhere possible.
  3. She would voluntarily accompany you when you need to buy presents for your boyfriend. Again, haunting presence.
  4. When you and your boyfriend go dating, she would happily join you without thinking twice.
  5. She has a habit of hooking up with her friends’ boyfriends or ex-boyfriends (if you think hooking up with ex-boyfriends doesn’t really matter, read the next point.)
  6. After you break up with your boyfriend, she would call you (normally she wouldn’t but at this point of time, she would “display” how much she “cares” for you) and comfort you and tells you that your ex-boyfriend is a jerk and you make the right choice to leave him (still sounds “normal”?).
  7. Then, she would hook up with your ex-boyfriend whom she said was a jerk. (Trust me, this is not the worst part).
  8. During this time when she secretly dates your ex-boyfriend, she continues to brainwash you that he is the biggest jerk.
  9. Then one day, you suddenly find out that this ex-boyfriend is dating someone (of course you still wouldn’t know who is this “secret lady”). And how did you find out? Your ex-boyfriend “accidentally” forwards the “proposal message” which he sent to her to you. Wow, that’s just great!
  10. And of course, by now, you are wondering who is this secret person. Well, at this time Ms. H calls you and tells you to meet. During the meeting, she keeps asking about the details of your ex-relationship with your ex-boyfriend, and asks you if you know any news about your ex-boyfriend.
  11. After digging out all information, she happily tells you that “Oh, in fact I am dating your ex-boyfriend now. He wishes to get your approval first before we goes official. However, we want to keep it a low profile relationship.”
  12. The so-called “low-profile” relationship turns out to be publishing on Facebook the very next day and every mutual friends between you and your ex-boyfriend come to ask you “What is going on?”.
  13. Your misfortune doesn’t end here. She then makes sure all of your ex-boyfriend’s friends hate you. Of course, she continues to “act” to be innocent, lovely and kind-hearted.
  14. Soon, she will make your ex-boyfriend block you on Facebook for unknown reason. Obviously by now, you will be pissed and you naturally will remove (note here, it’s not block, just remove) her from friend’s list. Then, she would innocently message and ask “Why is she not in your friend’s list anymore?” I mean, seriously!?!??!
  15. Of course, when she asks like this, me (aka an idiot) adds her again, thinking that she really means well. But then, she replied “I’ll not accept your request because I don’t want you to see the pictures of me and “him”  which I will post in future. WTH?!?! Then why in the first place you asked me WHY you are not in my friend’s list?
  16. She obviously knows that friends who are being tagged in pictures will naturally appear in other friends’ news feed. Of course, she will the purposefully tag your mutual friends with her, to show how happily and successfully she has snatched every friends that you once had. Whatever.
  17. Another thing is that, she will of course set her Facebook privacy setting to “a certain level”, only exposing the flowers, gifts, and big diamond rings that your ex-boyfriend has given her. Also, other important events such as proposal, engagement, pre-wedding photos. Everything that she can show how blissful she is.
  18. Years later, people are still asking you the same fucking questions. Wow, talk about haunting presence.

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Wow, she really has a long list of good deeds.

Apparently, Mr TP added Ms H on Facebook. Not just Mr TP. In fact, many others also added Ms H. Therefore, I told myself, I don’t need to revolve around this pile of shits. I know we have mutual friends. And, friends tagging other friends in photos will definitely appear on my news feed. I really don’t want my news feed to be filled with filth so I took the liberty of removing these shits from my friend list. (Oh, so if you were removed, then you are that shit). Of course, Mr TP was removed too.

Anyway, on March 18, 2013, about a month after I have removed the shits, Mr TP actually replied to my message (which I sent in January). I purposefully “seen” it but did not reply him. Then on May 18, 2013, Mr TP wrote me again regarding the “wedding invitation”. In fact, I really really really really really didn’t want to reply him at all. But I thought it was rather unfair for me to just unfriend him without letting him to know the reason. So, I asked him out for lunch, with Nyago of course.

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At lunch, I told him that I have already unfriended him and I actually intended not to invite him anymore. Obviously, he asked why. So I told him the reason was because he added Ms H. So he told me that it was her who added him, and he was merely accepting the request. Well, this is something I believe because I always know that Ms H always wants to prove that she is better. Of course, I told Mr TP all the shits that Ms H has done towards me. Mr TP then told me that coincidently he just met with Mr Ex-boyfriend and Ms H a month ago, together with Mr TP’s girlfriend. Mr. TP’s girlfriend (let’s call her Ms. Smart), is a very smart person. When she first met Ms H, she told Mr TP that she dislikes Ms H because (I quote her) “she is very cunning”. Ms. Smart added that Ms H is someone who seeks “fame and security”. Hello, even if you don’t trust what I said, at least you should trust your girlfriend’s opinion. After all, you have been with her for 9 years. Why are men so stupid? Always allowing others continuously to cheat them despite warning? Now you know why I posted this on my Facebook (refer below).

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I told Mr TP that I will never add him on Facebook unless he removes Ms H from his friend’s list. Seriously, unless you are my very good friend, I would never ask you to do such a thing. Up to now, I have never asked my friend to remove anyone because I don’t like someone. To put it simply, I have never disliked anyone in my life as much as Ms H before. But after what she has done, how I can simply forget?

Mr TP told me that he would remove Ms H because “it doesn’t matter to him as she is not somebody important” (I quote him). After hearing this, I actually felt that Mr TP is indeed a good friend. On the same night, I “stalked” (I am not ashamed to use this word) Mr TP’s profile and of course I saw that Ms H is still on his list. I told Nyago, why hasn’t he done as what he promised? My husband is a very nice person, he said “your friend is travelling tomorrow, he’s tired. Just give him some time. I believe he will do what he has promised.” Two days later, I stalked again. Again, he didn’t remove Ms. H. 10 days later, he still hasn’t removed. I gave up totally. I told Nyago, up to 7 days before my wedding, if he still hasn’t removed Ms H, I would tell him not to come to my wedding anymore.

I felt quite upset. WHY is this person, whom I considered as a good friend, lie to me? If you cannot do what you have promised, then you are not a good friend at all, at least to me you are not at all.

I am a very sentimental, emotional and temperamental person. So I know, as long as I see Mr TP appearing on my chat list (eventhough he is no longer in my friend’s list), I’ll still get upset. So, I archived my chat with him.

On June 11, 2013, he again messaged me, confirming his attendance to my wedding dinner. I sent him a friend request without checking his friend list. WHY? Because I trust that if he messages, I am sure he remembers what he promised and I trust that he will fulfil his promise. He accepted my friend request almost immediately and then he asked “Wah…now only add me 😦 ” I mean, can’t you add me if I don’t add you? Must I be the one to add you first?

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Of course, I did another (and also the last) round of checking. He DIDN’T remove Ms H. I was disappointed. This person betrays my trust.

To Mr TP:
By the way, it’s not about moving on or what. Of course everyone has to move on in life. Has time ever gone backwards? Please don’t say some stupidity. Obviously, I have never regretted any decision I made in life. And seriously, do I need to mention all the good things I have in life now without “him”? The point here is, I dislike Ms. H and you promised me something and you broke my trust. DO NOT promise anything in the first place if you CANNOT fulfill. That makes you a weakling.

And also, my husband’s name is Nyagoslav. In short, people call him Nyago. It’s not a Vietnamese name. He is a Bulgarian. Please don’t argue with me that you have worked with a lot of Vietnamese whose names are “Nyago”. As far as I understood, their surnames are either Nguyen or Ngo which are totally different from Nyago. Are you seriously questioning me or my husband for his name? Do you seriously think you know better than we do? Come on, you are running businesses, don’t tell me you don’t know the basics of addressing people in their correct names?

And for the last time, DO NOT mention “Wow, your English has improved tremendously” to me. Seriously, you just gotta say that to me each time you talk to me? Don’t you ever get tired? People grow up, people move on, people improve. And, I am one of them. If you are still saying all these fucking things, that means you haven’t grown up mentally.

I am sorry this story is a bit long. I have tried to summarised it as short as possible, but there are some details which I just cannot exclude at all.

My questions now are:

  1. Does this person deserve my trust and friendship?
  2. Should I pretend nothing is wrong and let him attend my wedding?
  3. Should I completely remove him not just from my friend’s list but also from my life?

Your feedback is very much appreciated. I hope I can have a definite answer towards this person (Mr TP) a.s.a.p.

Thanks!

From someone who feels betrayed.

Thank you for making my year 2010 memorable!

Dear all,

I was very bored so I went to check out my facebook timeline for the year of 2010. And looking at the posts and pictures really reminded me a lot of things that happened in that year. As some of you may have known, I was struggling a lot in life in year 2009. The beginning of 2010 started quite badly but as time passed by, but I began to meet really good people and good things started happening since. In this blog, I would like to mention some loved ones who have been with me during my most difficult period in life. I really want to thank all of you who were there at my lowest point of life. Thank you for being patient with me, always listening to my crap and most important of all, never stop believing in me. I really appreciate all of you and I am really thankful to God for giving me such good friends like you!

p/s: If I can, I would want to put everyone at the first in list, but of course it is impossible to do that. So please do not mind the if I don’t mention you at the top position. Just remember that I love you and you have a very important place in my heart!

1. Nyagoslav Zhekov
Dearest honey bee, thank you for being the sweetest boyfriend I could ever ask for. I believe our meeting was not accidental and it was God’s plan. I always think our meeting was a miracle as both of us were located at 2 different parts of the world. We practically didn’t share anything in common at then – different continents, different schools, different friends, and I think we shared even different Likes on facebook. What we had was just a mutual friend. And that was what brought us together. Thank you for being a patient, understanding, motivating, encouraging, caring and loving bee to me. I know I can be quite immature at times and love to throw tantrums when I don’t get my way, thank you for always giving in and also providing me with all you have. You may not have a lot but you are always willing to give me everything you have. Thank you for showering me with your love. I love you with all my heart and I want to be with you forever and ever!

2. KL sayangs: Charmaine Anne, Esther Leong, Dionne Yeng
Dearest sayangs in KL, I love you girls so much. Thank you for your constant spam on my wall. I really love it when you girls wrote stuff that really cheer me up. Please continue spamming my walls okay! Thank you for being there with me when I had the most dramatic life ever. I know that I can count on you girls when I need help the most. I love and miss doing crazy stuff with you girls. Miss D, I miss being your crazy housemate and I will always remember the crazy things we did at home and at the poolside. CME & Esther, I miss the crazy times we had in Hong Kong and Macau, those crazy gossiping and shopping sessions. I hope we can spend more time doing fun and crazy things together when I move back to KL in the middle of this year 🙂

3. Mei Zhi
My cutest 小妹. Thank you for being a lovely sister to me. Thank you for always listening to my complaints eventhough I know you are quite bored of it already. Hahaha! I hope my complaints didn’t offend you but make you more understand from my perspectives. Maybe sometimes I didn’t offer you good solutions to your problems, but I hope I am a good 二姐 for you too 🙂 Hehehe…I love all the handmade things that you made for me. I really appreciate them. I still keep many of them eventhough they are already few years old. Hahaha! Maybe we are not always home together or maybe we have our own things to do at home, you can always disturb me in my room, just like I always go to your room and kick your butt. Wahahaha! 😛

4. JB jimui: Cassy Chong, Regina Ng, Yeong Wen, Angelina Tiah
I think I have spent most of my life with you girls. I have known all of you since primary school (and for Yeong Wen is since kindergarten years). Eventhough I spent my last few years in KL (except for Angel who was my housemate for a year) but I am so glad that we are still always keeping in touch with each other and never fail to keep each other updated with things happening around us. Thank you all of you who always make time to keep me company and help me go through my darker days. Thank you for helping me to stand on my feet again. I don’t need to remember how devastated I had to go through the shittiest days of my life, but I will always remember how you girls encouraged me and listened to my woes. Thank you for also helping me to “screw” those who made my life a shit. Thank you for keeping these shits out from my life. I love you girls dearly. 🙂

4. HELP University students
You guys rock! Seriously, I have never have as much fun as I did in your class. I miss all the photo-taking sessions in the class, whether you guys were secretly taking my pictures and then uploaded it on facebook and tagged me!! Thank you for appreciating me as your lecturer. I also appreciate all the gestures you guys have done for me. Thank you for organising all the gatherings for me. I am really happy being able to still keep in close contact with you guys even I have left HELP for more than a year. Thank you for being my best students. 🙂

5. Former colleagues in UCSI: Mami Veni, Ms. Ivie, Mr. Francis, Kumaran, Syikin, Ms. Lilian
I wanna thank you all of you for being my best teachers and colleagues in life. Thank you Mr. Francis, Ms. Ivie & Ms. Lilian for being the best lecturers in the world. I will never forget the kindness you have shown me throughout my study and working life in UCSI. I also want to thank Mami, Kumaran and Syikin for being my best friends at work. Thank you for all your encouragement and help when I was facing a lot of obstacles at work. Thank you for being patient and believe in me. I have gained a lot of knowledge and experience during my 2 years working life in UCSI. I want to apologize if I was a hard-headed subordinate. Thank you for helping me to understand the real meaning of teaching.

6. Shirley Ang, Sin Lan, Jonie Neoh, See Ngin, Ruth Chai….
Although I rarely see you girls in person, I really every small little things you have done for me. Thank you for being such good friends to me 🙂 I will always remember how we shared with each other about the details of our lives.

2010 was a year that had a great impact in my life. I had the worst nightmare in the beginning of the year but beautiful dreams started emerging in the middle of the year. For those that I didn’t mention your name here, please do not be angry. You know who you are, you know what you have done to help me to go through the lowest point of my life 🙂 I will appreciate what you have done to help me get through the toughest time!

As much as I don’t like to, but I still want to mention it anyway. If you are reading this, and you are one of the @$$holes who made my life really shitty, I really want to say a BIG THANK YOU to you because if you haven’t made my life so miserable, I would have never realised how many angels I have in my life. So really, thank you so much for that 😀 And also, to those who didn’t believe in me, and made fun of my situation, really THANK YOU SO MUCH for it. I mean, I don’t mean any sarcasm. At the end of the day, just take a good look at yourself (with or without mirror) and I’m sure you find the answer to your life better than I do.