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The story of Chrysanthemums

My husband and I like to joke with each other. I mean, really crude jokes. There was a joke, which I have been telling people since I don’t remember when. He didn’t tell me not to tell it to others. He didn’t tell me that this joke has somehow affected him a little bit negatively. It really didn’t hit me that I have become so insensitive. Until yesterday, I found out that this joke was not funny after all.

The joke (or story) went like this. It happened last year, sometime around March, April or May (I really can’t remember). One day, I was feeling really down. It was either about my work or my dissertation (again, I don’t remember). On this particular day, my hubby sent me to work. On the way to work, I guess I was in really foul mood and must have said a lot of shits. So, my hubby decided to cheer me up by giving me a little surprise. He came to pick me when I knocked off from work. As usual, I waited for him at the foyer of my workplace. I saw his car coming, he stopped at drop-off area and I opened the car door. I was stunned for 5 seconds, didn’t know how to react. Guess what?! There was a bouquet of Chrysanthemum on the passenger seat. I was obviously not in good mood that day, but I wasn’t angry. I took that bouquet of flowers and got into the car. I was silent for another 5 seconds and then I turned to my hubby and said, “Honey, do you remember that when we were in Bulgaria, I once told you that you shouldn’t buy Chrysanthemums as gifts for others when we are back in Malaysia?” He turned to me and asked why. I continued, “That’s because Chrysanthemums are usually used for prayers or for the deceased.” He was in total shock. Then we went to my mum’s place for dinner. And I told my mum the story and asked my mum to guess what flowers he bought. My mum said, “Please don’t tell me it’s Chrysanthemum.” And I replied, “Yes, you are right.” Then I turned to my hubby and said “Please do not buy clock for my family members and friends.” We had a laugh and continued our dinner as usual.

My family members and I are not superstitious people. However, we are after all Chinese and we try our best to keep some of the Chinese traditions or “pantang larang” (taboos) that had been passed down from our ancestors. Fortunately, my family members also understand that my hubby shares a very different culture from them. So, there is a mutual understanding between my hubby and my family members, not to sweat over small things like this.

To me, I love flowers. I love all kinds of flowers. Although Chrysanthemum is not my favorite (my favorites are calla lilies and hydrangeas), I still think Chrysanthemums are very pretty flowers. Back in Bulgaria, I had also received Chrysanthemums from my hubby. So what made this time so different and shocking? I’m no flower expert but I think there are different types (or species) of Chrysanthemums. Some of them look like Daisy (for me) and some of them look like Sunflower (for me again). So, if you want to know the kind of Chrysanthemum I received when I was in Bulgaria, look at the picture below. They look very nice and sweet right? (see below).


So why was this time so shocking? Because this time, the Chrysanthemum I received neither looked like Daisy or Sunflower, but it looked like this. (see below). So let me ask you, how would you feel if you see this flower bouquet on the passenger seat when you are not exactly in good mood?


When we went back home, my hubby explained to me what happened. He said that he went to the florist’s and he saw that the roses looked small and miserable. So, he didn’t want the roses. Then, the florist came and asked him who was he buying for and what was the occasion. Read carefully from here. My hubby told the florist that he was buying flowers for his wife and it was just for a casual occasion. After browsing, my hubby said that the only fresh and nicest looking flowers were the Chrysanthemums. So he pointed at those and taa-daa…the florist without saying anything, sold that to my hubby. In fact, after I heard this story, I got quite angry at the florist. Then, I told my hubby, “These flowers have to be fresh because people are frequently using them for prayers”. What’s worse was that it was approximately the “Qing Ming Festival” (Tomb Sweeping Festival) for the Chinese. Seriously?! I personally think that the florist was very unethical to sell that bouquet to my hubby.

Later on, when I met my friends, sometimes I would mention this story as a joke. For more than a year, I’ve been telling this as a joke to many people. Until yesterday, one of my best friends mentioned this on Facebook. So without thinking much, I again joked about it with my hubby. Later when we going to sleep, we chit-chatted and I started bugging him about not giving me anymore surprise gifts. After non-stop bugging for about an hour (I think I’m a pest), he finally told me that the reason WHY he now prefers to bring me to choose my own gifts rather than buying them on his own. The reason is that he is constantly WORRIED he will make another mistake like the “Chrysanthemum incident”. Then, it struck me that this incident has affected him in such a negative manner until he is afraid to give me anymore surprise gifts. There was a silence for 5 minutes. I realised that I have been such a horrible wife for making him feel horrible all these while.

Honestly, I blame that stupid florist. Her action has affected us (especially my hubby) quite negatively. She may have done it unintentionally but I believe she should have at least informed (if not warned) my husband when he pointed at the Chrysanthemums. She shouldn’t have assumed that the wife of my hubby is also an “ang moh” (Caucasian). Unfortunately for her and everyone else, that wife (me) is a Chinese.

So here, I want to apologize to my hubby for insensitively joked about this for more than a year. I’m so sorry. Please don’t be angry and continue to buy me surprise gifts. If anything of such happens again, don’t worry, I’ll burn the shop of the seller. Okay, maybe not burn but I’ll go back to the shop and slap the seller. 😀

Every time I pass by this florist’s, I feel so disgusted. Such an unethical florist. To the florist: May your boyfriend or husband buy you only Chrysanthemums (NOT the nice colourful ones) for the rest of your life!



Never Trust This Deal Site!

I was hoping that I would never have to write this post. But, my patience has reached its maximum. Today, I’m going to talk about ONE deal site which has given me nothing but bad experience over the last 3 weeks.

Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of deal sites. But I do browse through them occasionally when I’m bored or when I’ve nothing better to do. It all started on 25 April 2014 when I was just recovering from my sickness. I was very sick for a few days before 25 April and hadn’t stepped out from home for 5 days. Being sick was horrible enough, what was more horrible was that I couldn’t do anything except to lie on the bed or on the sofa. As I really had nothing better to do, I decided to browse some deal sites.

I have previously purchased a few vouchers from G-site. These were mostly meal vouchers. Meal vouchers are the best because you just need to print out the voucher, call to reserve your seats and then you just go there and eat what you have bought. I don’t like to buy “things” or “products” or “items”. Firstly, I don’t really trust the quality of the items sold on these sites, unless they are like freaking cheap and I don’t really care about the quality of that particular item, i.e just buying for fun or for the sake of wasting money. Secondly, these items usually have a particular delivery period, i.e 2 weeks, 1 month, 2 months etc. I mean, seriously, if I really like something, wouldn’t it be ridiculous to wait for such a long time? And how would I know that after this waiting time, I would actually get my items? Up to now, I haven’t taken any such risks, especially if it involved more than 7 days delivery period.

Anyway, to cut the crap short, some friends have told me that they got really good deals from other sites, namely L-site and M-site, so I decided to give these sites a chance. In fact, some time in March 2014, I purchase an item from L-site. It was supposed to be a 3-day delivery. I was delighted! I mean, 3 days is not really such a long waiting time. So yeah, I clicked and paid for the item. In the end, the item did not arrive within 3 days. So, I emailed them on the 5th day and there was no reply. So, I called them on the 7th day, but the person who picked up said he was not sure. WOW! I was dumbstruck! Anyway, he told me to wait for a few days and I could call again if my item still did not arrive. Lucky for me, after 10 waiting days, I finally got my item. (Note: I’ve excluded the Saturdays and Sundays in my calculation).

So, back to the reason of this post. Due to my extreme boredom and sickness on 25 April, I decided to just browse the same L-site since I couldn’t find anything I fancied from G-site and M-site. In less than a minute, something caught my attention. I was very cautious because I remembered the bad experience I had in March. I think boredom must have crushed my brain that day. I knew the 3-day delivery thing was a total bullshit but I thought to myself “What could be worse?” At most, it would turn out to be a 10-day delivery like the previous time. And since, my previous item did eventually arrive, I decided to buy the item. And, the reason why I’m writing this post is because I HAVE NOT RECEIVED ANYTHING UNTIL TODAY!

It’s not really some expensive item but why should I waste my money on this site? Imagine how much money is spent on this site if there are 200 buyers like me?! I decided to call them for clarification. It’s best not to jump to conclusion and start screwing unless I find out what’s wrong. I called for 4 days, and the line was always busy. So, I decided to write an email to them. No one replied. Since they were not working on the weekends, I called them again the following week. Again, the line was always busy. So finally on a “fine” day, I was able to get through so I asked them to check the status for me. Guess what!? They told me that their system was down and they couldn’t check it for me and asked me to call them again tomorrow. I told them I didn’t want to call back because I’ve been trying for many days and requested them to call me back, in a polite manner. And guess again what?!?! They said, “Oh, we can’t possibly call back every customer because we are too busy.” Ermmmmmmmm………..Unless you’ve been cheating many customers’ money and many of them are calling like hell, which I believe is the case, why can’t you call back? If not, an email would be enough. If your company has dealt OR at least set up a system to deal with each purchase carefully, do you think your customers are so free to call you all the time to check on their items? This is so f-up!

Seriously, never trust this L-site. For G-site and M-site, I can say that they are generally reliable, especially G-site. Their items always arrive on time and even if the items don’t arrive on time, you can always call/email them. They respond fast and also send follow-up emails. Thumbs up for G-site! Because of the incompetency of L-site staff, I now have to call the credit card company to stop my payment and do a lot of other unnecessary shits (like wasting time to write this post about them!).


Item purchased on 8th March 2014.


Item purchased on 25th April 2014.

The Curse of the Delivery Service!

It’s 12.28am as I start to write. Most of you are probably asleep by now but I guess I just want to keep my writing bug going before I get lazy for another year! *horror*

Today, I started clearing some printed pictures from the good old days. Obviously, I got lazy halfway so it was only 30% completed. To make my clearing more interesting, I was actually taking pictures of these pictures and was sending them to my friends. Haha! That explains a lot WHY it was only 30% completed. Anyway, my friends and I (and also my husband) had a good laugh over these pictures. I mean, WHAT were we thinking? In that dress?!? In that hairstyle?!?! To keep you in suspense, I will talk about that tomorrow. (Technically, “now” is the “tomorrow” that I’m talking about, but whatever, it’s “tomorrow”.)

So anyway, back to the topic. I think I’m either cursed by bad delivery service or the delivery service in Malaysia is really so so so so so bad! Well, I did have really good and reliable service from a few good companies, namely the “F” company and the “D” company (well, I’m not doing free advertising here!) but I usually only use these when I have to post like really urgent and important documents. Sadly, I doubt any dealsites are using these companies. I mean, they are afterall dealsites. Read d-e-a-l-s-i-t-e-s.

I don’t blame the delivery person. I understand that it’s just a job for them. And, I totally can understand that delivering stuff to condominiums/apartments can be quite a shit. WHY? Simply due to lots of “rules”. But, at least, try to call me before coming or when arriving so that I can make sure I’m home to receive my parcel. I was home the whole morning and when I finally got out to get some late lunch at 3pm, the delivery arrived at 3.30pm. Darn! What was more “exciting” was that I arrived home at 4.30pm and I tried calling them to confirm for a pick up tomorrow but no one answered the call! Hmmm, it was not as bad as like getting a summon. But I did feel like I was “slapped” on. I had the urge to stick that notice on my face, but I refrained myself to prevent getting pimples on my forehead. So, I took that nice little picture (below) for your viewing! Hohoho! By the way, my name was also changed to “Jonny Tan”. Haha!! So, what’s your experience with delivery service? Are you also “cursed” like me?!

Love from the pink monster ❤

The “dreaded” notice when you are away from home!